I got a nice early Christmas present this year. My whole life it’s just been me and my Dad, and so it was a little awkward to call home and hear a strange voice on the other end of the phone. Whereas I’m used to just barging straight into conversation, this time I stuttered to get out words never before uttered: “is…uh…Peter there?”
You see, Dad has an Egyptian houseguest currently staying with him: a professional kickboxer, trying to make his way here in North America. Now, to hear Dad speak of Konga (not his real name, but Pops isn’t exactly the world’s best Arabic speaker), is to hear him speak of a boy with drive, ambition, goals, i.e., the exact opposite of me.
To be fair, I have no doubt that Dad is proud of my Master’s degree in political theory. After all, who wouldn’t be proud of a son who can talk ad infinitum (or indeed drop phrases like ad infinitum into daily conversation) about justice, equality, representation, aesthetics and the like? But I’m not exactly bursting at the seams with ambition, unless you count shining shoes or bussing tables as ambitious.
Now, anyone who knows Dad knows how great of a man he is. When I was a kid, this was irritating, because I only ever wanted to talk about, you guessed it, me, but everyone around me seemed more interested in talking about him. Big shoes to fill, you know?
But I have to face a harsh reality: he has a new son now. And so I find myself thrown into the cold unfeeling marketplace, looking for a new Dad to fill the void.
People who have never met Dad 1.0 always ask me what he’s like. I usually say something to the extent of ‘well he’s a lot like me, except humble, nice, caring, etc.”. These qualities will have no place in Dad 2.0.
The first prospective new Dad I can think of is Bill O’Reilly. Abrasive, loud, authoritative, but still charming as hell. He has a Master’s degree from an Ivy League school, but if graduate school has taught me anything, it’s that a monkey could get a degree in liberal arts so long as it can jump through hoops and kiss ass at the same time.
So let’s add a bit of solid intellect to the mix. Who do I get? Plato. Sure, he was a proto-fascist. But he is the father of Western political thought, and even his biggest detractors cannot help but admit to his genius. He would have told me my role, and would have expected me to conform to it.
But Plato wasn’t exactly all that approving of writing, and if you haven’t guessed by now, I would like one day to be a writer. So next up I have William F. Buckley Jr., the intellectual voice of American conservatism for decades. Buckley would have taught me how to be authoritative, a genius, an author, a sailor and, last but certainly not least, a socialite. He also, like me, always had a pen in his mouth (Shut up, Freud, I’m not talking to you).
So in the end I choose Buckley. And even when I look at his real son, Christopher, the author of Thank You for Smoking, I see an image of my future self. A touch arrogant, sure, but suave as suave can be: with a really sharp wit and with sharper fashion taste.
Now, some will look at this list and say ‘you’ve picked all conservatives’. Well, duh. What do you think a father should be?
I should recapitulate. I love my previous father and he is a great man. I wish him and his new son all the best, and I hope that kickboxing turns out to be more lucrative than political theory.
(Incidentally, today is my father’s birthday. Happy birthday Dad!)